Hi everyone, I am sorry I dropped off for a while there. Needed the time and energy to process the changing scenario almost every single day since March.
What an emotional roller coaster it has been for everyone - no matter what age you are and it's not even close to over yet!
For the children - I can't imagine what they must have gone through to suddenly not be able to see their friends and teachers or pursue their favorite activities. Missing out big holidays and milestones like birthdays and graduations isn't easy as a child. So when they act up try to understand their perspective.
For the young adults- the job and economic scene has created enormous uncertainties. Goals that they might have worked towards for years must have vanished off the face of the earth. That can feel very defeating!
The middle aged - already caught between the needs of young children and growing parents are so torn that they have documented almost 30% of young women quitting their workforces to care for their families. Usual forms of relaxation and socializing have gone out the door and so has our peace of mind!
The older generation is so afraid that they are sometimes exhibiting symptoms of PTSD.
The election year and some egos are creating more havoc than I would like to talk about here.
All around a lot of craziness so I hope you are being kind to yourself and your loved ones too! Question every rule that you think you "have" to do and adjust accordingly. Learn to listen to your body and feelings and try to fulfill it's emotional needs too. Try to understand the underlying needs of the emotions not just for yourself but for others too. Self-inquiry and self-exploration can be stronger than therapy in my experience. Journaling, writing and meditating can help towards this.
We have all been conditioned to think and act a certain way by our cultures and loved ones and now they are no longer relevant so there is a lot of internal turbulence which can be felt in the external world too.
Do activities that soothe the soul as often as you would like - long baths, massages, long talks with trusted loved ones. Activities using your hands are supposed to be very soothing - knitting, crocheting, petting, cooking, any kind of art form, gardening can be very meditating.
Create a soothing routines with some rituals built in. Do take some time out to re-strengthen your self and recalibrate yourself so when the time comes you are ready to pounce on the opportunities.
In the end, I hope you realize that eventually everything will settle down - there will definitely be a new normal which we all will need to adjust too. Hopefully it will be a more gentler world with balance. But we have to be ready for it - physically, mentally, emotionally and financially too. It is going to entail a new way of thinking - a new mindset with a deeper values and priorities. Hard but not impossible.
One way I like to look at it is that you grow when you face challenges or obstacles, so look at them as stepping stones and not hurdles.
I have added some additional resources towards stress, finances, addictions and volunteering on my resources webpage. I have also added a list of my favorite authors if you want to stock up for this coming winter of short days.
In the end, do try to remember that for millennia this world has gone through famine, pandemics, natural disasters, financial upheaval, violence but eventually everything is overcome and peace does prevail.
Every night ends with sunrise and there is spring after every winter! Keep those seatbelts on!!!
To quote Maya Angelou: " Every storm eventually runs of rain" and remember, the Sun is always shining behind the clouds!
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