Moms and Mental health!

Hope all of you had a wonderful Mothers' Day on May 13th! May also happens to be Mental Health Awareness Month!!

As part of my work, I often meet women and specially Moms, who have sometimes had to put their personal joys on the back burner. We have had to prioritize our kids and families first and over time forgotten to take care of our own personal needs. Don't get me wrong, kids are a blessing but running a home with them is a lot of mental and physical work too. It's very hard to find time for ourselves unless you have a lot of encouraging positive support, a village really.

A lot of us have drifted away from extended family and the communities, we grew up in and find ourselves isolated, alone and frustrated. We need to be a loving, kind and non-judgmental support for each other, in this new reality with the internet, social media and so-called "smart-phones", to raise happy and healthy kids.

Taking time out to pursue personal joys is very vital to our happiness. In fact, we can find our true joys, true selves really in getting lost in our favorite activities. So don't take your hobbies and dreams lightly, it represents YOU. And when we ignore this aspect of our life is when we feel lost and stuck. We are the only ones who can help ourselves!

If we ignore our needs, it can sometimes lead to persistent sadness, overwhelm and depression. I understand it because I have been there. I have also observed it in my own Mom, close family, friends and other women I meet. While some of us might need medications, some can thrive with long-term loving support, no two people are the same.

NAMI (, Help Guide (, Mental Health Foundation ( and Gottman Institute ( are all trust worthy resources on this topic.

I also would like to underline mental health issues in boys and men. Traditionally, they are supposed to be the "tough" gender and are not encouraged to speak up about their feelings till it becomes a major problem. I have seen my brother not seeking out help when he first started experiencing signs of schizophrenia. IF there had been more awareness and support about the issue, he and our family wouldn't have had to suffer as much for as long.